Goth Thoughts- Anime villain Edition

Hello my loves.

Let’s talk lewks. Lately a large part of my aesthetic is looking like a King Queerdo Chubby Anime Villain.

Let’s talk about when you find a pair of awesome boots and ways to style it. Our theme today is chunky anime villain.

The boots (I am obsessed with these and yes I know they are likely a Puma Fenty knockoff but I ain’t got Fenty cash. Also all links are in fact amazon affiliate links, Auntie needs coins).

boot

[image description: black round toe thich high boots. They lace up the front with a few straps around the legs]

I dunno about y’all but, I so rarely get to buy really great shoes I tend to think about styling first before purchase. I’ve had my eye on these beauties since someone linked them to me. I just love them. The round toe, the straps. Everything.

So let’s talk styling em.

For winter/fall I’m looking at layers. First layer, leggings.

Let’s look at some of my personal choices.

These Spanx moto faux leather leggings are expensive as fuck but I LOVE the moto detail.

motolegging

[image description: a thin white person in white sneakers, black fake leather leggings with motorcycle themed details]

I mean, the boot goes over the knee and on my big fat ham would highlight that moto detail beautifully. I am a HUGE fan of faux leather leggings. Even with a smooth leather OTK boot for that full leather leg look. If moto isn’t your steez, have a look at these, these and these. The last pair are plus size up to a 24, unlike other leggings faux leather leggings sizing is a bit more difficult to fudge so if you are larger than a 24 on the bottom, you might want to find some that at least go to a 26 for a comfy fit. Pro tip for keeping faux leather leggings nicer for longer. Instead of hand washing or putting in the machine, hand clean any smelly parts and lay flat to dry.

If you aren’t ready for faux leather full leg. Try out some cute leggings detailing. I LOVE the bit of skin on these lattice work leggings. The ripped legging can be great, these you can wear a solid color pair of tights underneath or fishnets and have that pop detail and it is super cute. These faux leather inset leggings are great. I love the shape of the faux leather on them. Very understated sexy.

For a slightly more visually stimulating villainy look, I love the idea of these jacquard look leggings. Or go with a great print for less villainy. I’m a HUGE fan of Viv collection leggings, they are super soft and come in a very good variety of sizes and the prints y’all…the prints are awesome.

Other bottoms options.

I love a plain midi skirt over some tall boots and tights. I’ve had TONS of this style and they are super comfy. Best thing is as far as sizing goes, you can easily put your belly into one and wear it even if it is “too small”. The knit stretches, you could even wear it under your belly. Wheelie babes or babes who don’t like to or can’t wear binding waistbands, buy a shitload of these. I highly recommend this style of skirt and you can find them in lengths from mini to maxi.

I’m also a big fan of a big tall boot and a skater skirt. I love them and at this point you can get them in plain colors like this, mermaid prints like this (I have one in black and it is my fave skirt). For a slightly longer length, I mean y’all. Look at these right here. And always ALWAYS check the descriptions for sizing. Pro tip, if you are shopping from Asian sellers on Amazon, go for an elastic waist over a zipper. Dark floral? Yes please. There is something really great to me about funking up a very ladylike print with some edgy or clunky boots/shoes.

Now lets talk base layer tops. I wear a lot of tanks. I am not a fan of a fancy top and I do like to layer. Ones like these, and these. I’m starting to like ones with a little fancy detail like this strappy cami. I think the ones with the strappy front details are great for folks with boobs who want to show some skin but not be all like, titties all the way out. It is a good mid point.

I’m also a HUGE lover of a nice fitted tee. I prefer V necks and like the plain tanks, you can literally buy these anywhere in most sizes for good prices. Target, walmart, Old Navy (they make some of my favorites).

For the villainy look, the next thing I like are cardigans. Usually asymmetrical hem type. I LOVE this one. I like them long for that whole layered effect.  This type of longer pixie hem cardigan are fairly ubiquitous so you can find them in your size/color preferences pretty much all over the internet. Pro tip for busty people, to help keep your cardigan from just framing your boobs, wear a base layer with some texture to sort of help the cardi cling.

If you run warm or your base layer is long sleeve, there are sleeveless options that are great as well. The other thing is the sleeveless versions move between seasons really well depending on how you layer them.

Feeling extra fancy and dramatic? A poncho or cape can be magnificent. This one is expensive af but so pretty and probably feels super soft. Look at this cape, it has a hood and it is pretty awesome. For a lighter but still extra dramatic look, check out this here thingy. I mean COME ON. SO extra and so great.

I mean, life is hard. Be extra.

You can accessorive with jewelry or scarves. I’ve been experimenting with scarves a bit and you can pull in some dark mori influence there. Soften it up with some chiffon or lace. Butch it up with some tough accessories.

What else is on my fashion brain?

I want one of each of these dresses from Witch World Wide.  Velvet babydoll dresses bring back the FONDEST fashion memories for me.

So there you have it. Options for looking Villainous and awesome on a budget.

Next time we fashion, I think I’m going to talk some about ways to find stuff to fit your body and ways around bullshit sizing and tips on buying online.

Sometimes Adulting Blows.

Hello loves. Also if you’ve clicked over please forgive how ugly this blog is right now. I rage quit wordpress pro and well…I haven’t fixed my shit yet.

Y’all, 2017 has been kicking my ENTIRE ass. My partner is still not in a good way and I had an ER visit myself this week and found out I have an infection and have to be on a fuckload of antibiotics and pain medication and I’m working and….

This shit. I am very discouraged. Due to my own illness now, I burned through donations/side hustle money I was putting towards getting my finances back right after dealing with the fallout from my partner’s illness.

I’m in that weird headspace where I’m so frustrated with everything, I’m raging out about minor shit and feeling bad about myself as a breadwinner and adult.

So let’s have real talk about the battles.

The internal shame battle.

Shit is hard. Things are overwhelming and adding in that we’re moving in March. Y’all.

I’m working to be gentle with myself. I’m not entirely sure how to not freak out.

So here’s how shit stands.

My ER visit and subsequent fuckload of meds and whatnot, transportation for those days and missed work means I ran through most of my moving savings as well as cash I raised. So I’m low key starting over.

As recommended by trusted friends I’m trying to figure out what my needs are so I can ask but, honestly it’s all so overwhelming.

  • I’m going to need new glasses soon
  • I need a new bra
  • I need moving shit (storage containers etc)
  • Cash always.

On this end of things I’m doing some freelancing shit. I’ve inquired about some sensitivity reading but only a couple of nibbles so far. One project was too big and I just don’t have the time.

So yeah.

That’s what is happening so posting will continue to be light. There will be more fashion because fashion doesn’t necessarily stress me out more.

Wigs, Wigs n Wigs- Balling on a budget

Inspired by a friend in need of info, I’m going to talk about having a bomb ass wig game on a budget.

First, let’s dispell some stuff.

  1. Anything but human hair is terrible. Nah. Matter of fact, if you don’t have a lot of money, or if you don’t want to commit the time to taking care of two full heads of hair, synthetic is pretty great these days.
  2. A good wig is expensive. Nah. I have some that I paid a lot for and they suck.
  3. Your wig must always look naturally laid. Nah. Screw realness.

The thing is, while yes, it can be nice to have those baby hairs laid and to look like you grew that 31″ Brazilian water wave out of your head, that’s not realistic for a lot of us so nah.

Now before picking wigs, lets talk about some terms you’ll see. Lace front usually indicates that the lace goes from ear to ear usually. With space to change the part. Inside the wig you’ll see the lace, and then the cap where the wefts of hair are sewn.

Looking at the size of your lace in your lace front unit, where there’s lace you can make a part. If you are a brown person, you’re probably going to have to use some brown powder on the lace to match it to your skin tone.

A full lace wig, will not have that kind of lattice looking inside. The full cap is made of lace so you can part it out where ever you like.

Full lace will cost more and really is a matter of personal preference, comfort, how much cash you have.

Now, let’s talk about some basic stuff.

How do you pick a wig?

My method is pretty simple, I will cobble together key words for what I’m looking for, get to google and go. Once I find some styles I like I will jot down the name of the wig and google that specifically to compare prices.

Let’s do it together. Click here. That search is for long bob wig. Go ahead and click on the Sams Beauty link. Or click here.

Now this isn’t a full wig and not what we’re looking for, but don’t lose hope. Look on the top of that page and hover on wigs, then click on synthetic hair. SO MANY CHOICES.

Very overwhelming I know.

Let’s say, we’re looking for a medium length wavy wig. On the left, click deep wave, medium wave then scroll down and click the option for medium length.

Click on the first wig, FREETRESS EQUAL SYNTHETIC HAIR WIG INVISIBLE L PART CHASTY. If you scroll down on the page, you’ll see a lot of information, some photos and on a good search a review video or two. Now, we’ll pretend this is now the wig you gotdang want.

Google the whole name of the wig and check out your price options. Do you have Prime? Amazon can get it to you like PEW PEW PEW. Oh looky here, Hairsisters has it on sale.

We’ll pretend you bought the wig from Amazon. What else should you buy to get started?

And yes, y’all know I’m trying to save to move so every coin counts and amazon links are affiliate links.

You are gonna need some wig caps. If this is your first wig I suggest snagging a few different styles to see what suits your tastes.

This multi pack has two standard pantyhose material caps and one mesh cap. I think it would be a great part of a starter wig order. If you live somewhere hot, tend to be hot in the skull area etc, these are a great option for some extra cooling and airflow.

My personal favorite brand of caps are these. I don’t know if they are really better for your hair but I found they fit over my head and hair nice and snug and hold their shape and stretch well.

In terms of caps, your comfort is king. I prefer a thicker cap or I will wear two. I can’t cornrow so getting my wigs laid can be a challenge because I wear little struggle braids under my wigs.

You can also pick up wig caps at lots of drug stores and beauty supply stores. I usually buy 3-5 packs of them at a time.

Next thing is a little pricy but, booboo it will save your edges. A wig slip.  They are velvety bands you place over the edge of your wig cap. They are amazing. Not only will your wig be more secure, you won’t have to actually attach it to your real hair. Thus saving your edges from traction alopecia and stress.

Also if you have a head that doesn’t quite fit a wig cap right, a bit too big or small, BOOM yo wig slip got you boo. I have about five I rotate and I hand wash them.

What else? Make sure you have styling tools that are appropriate for the hair. If you buy a curly wig, don’t try to style it with a paddle brush.

Make sure you comb or brush out your wig after wearing. Wigs will often tangle up at the nape of the neck and it is just a thing that happens. Carry a wide toothed comb with you or deal.

Before wearing your wig out, play with it. Figure out what you want to do with the hairline, if you want to try wearing it in a ponytail. You know it is fun, you can play around. Or if you don’t feel like it, wear it right out of the box.

Some stuff I’d avoid.

Don’t believe the hype about only buying human hair wigs. Real talk, I personally prefer synthetic because, I just don’t have the energy to take care of a whole extra head of hair.

Your wigs aren’t bad and you aren’t gross if your wigs aren’t layed for the gods, if you don’t do baby hairs, if you don’t customize your wig. Wear it how it works for you boo.

You can buy a cheap wig and rock the fuck out of it if you wanna.

You can buy a cheap wig to practice wearing and caring for a wig.

Fuck “realness”. Seriously.

If someone really believes you went from a pixie cut to a booty length red magnificence over night, they probably also believe that if you wear blue lipstick your lips are really blue. Also, who cares? WHO CARES? Random folks opinions about whether or not your hair is “yours” don’t matter unless they are in a direct position of authority over you.

Next time we talk wigs, I’ll talk about some of the reasons to try wigs if you like.