About the last one for the year y’alls.
I’m gonna look at hair stuff.
I had intended to make this big dramatic post, patting myself on the back and twerking in joy because I found a braid extension that doesn’t involve cornrows and that I can do. If you are interested see here. If you want to learn how to do cornrowless crochet braids of any type, seriously sub to Jazz Nicole and learn. Her videos are easy to follow and even I COULD DO IT.
So I practiced. And Sunday I got started.
First thing what had happened was-
I had some MAJOR knots down at my goddamn scalp. I could feel them. Getting them out was traumatic. Because I’ve been mainly finger and wide tooth comb detangling, I’ve avoided a lot of breakage buuuuuuuuuuuuut them little evil ass gremlin knots slipped through the big comb and I damn well know that gliding my fingers from scalp to ends is a no go. SO that was, fucking terrible.
Because I don’t heat style more than maybe once a year, I had to fight them knots. I was very gentle but about a quarter of the way through, my scalp started to hurt really badly. Just, sore and bruised so I stopped and resumed on Monday. When I was almost in tears because my whole goddamn head was hurting like I got hit, I should have stopped but………..I did not.
Listen to your Auntie babes.
If your body is saying. HEY NO PLS WHAT THE FUCK STOP NO FUCK U BITCH! Listen.
However, after a few maybe scissor happy trims my hair is doing very well. It is juicy moist, soft. Everything I want and I’m retaining length. That is huge for me because I’m going for booty length hair and I can’t be losing my inches to bullshit.
The evolution of oh noness. First pic, doing the first section. Holding my hair out I was feeling myself. Second photo, me feeling myself HUGELY. My pretty little braids were soft and shiny. Swingy. Third photo, hours later this is the sweaty face of defeat. That was the point I decided to just give up.
But! Good news.
I have added a new layer of understanding about my hair.
I need a hard all the way down to the scalp, tiny ass comb detangling at least once a month.
My current routine is working out very nicely. Here’s how I get down.
I am hardcore protective styling. I’m wearing wigs.
Doing the LOC method regularly works for me. My hair still loves a heavy ass butter/oil PAPOW combo. When I’m on my game, I only really need to moisturize after washing, then two days later. Then again on wash day.
Now let’s talk about some products I like.
For moisturizing. For a non handmade cream I like some few brands.
Asiam Double Butter Cream. Not bad. It is nicely moisturizing, has good stuff in it and is pretty easy to find.
Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In Conditioning Repair Cream. WITH a caveat. Cantu products are VERY proteiny. Use with caution especially if your hair is protein sensitive. That said, it is a great one to use if your hair is feeling a little weak. Not a lot, a little goes a long way.
Really for me if something has a good base of shea butter AND has oils, it’s gonna be great.
Commercially blended oils.
This one does have a silicone but it’s not a biggie for me. My hair isn’t mad about cones. Hot 6 oil. I love to use it as a base for other stuff.
I like to mix in:
Jamaican Black Castor Oil. Always a fave of mine. My scalp LOVES this shit and when I have an itchy spot it does it for me.
I will also drop in a little bit of peppermint or tea tree oil.
For commercial oils, what you want is to make sure they don’t have mineral oil and if you’re sensitive to silicones skip it.
Oils from the grocery store.
Coconut oil. Y’all do not get fooled into paying vast amounts. Go to a hood grocery, buy a jar of coconut oil. I know it isn’t the big thing anymore but my hair loves it.
Other kitchen oils: olive oil is amazing. For me I like my oils a bit heavier but olive is great and no it doesn’t have to be the fanciest most extra virgin olive ever. Plain ole olive oil, just check the label to make sure it is pure olive oil.
If you live where you can get to a brown folks grocery, look for palm oil.I’ve used it as a hot oil treatment and it was GREAT. Also avocado oil but it is expensive where I live so I tend not to use it.
For ultra softening get a good fatty ass oil.
Non eatin oils:
I LOVE light castor oil and buy one or two bottles a year. My brand is NOW Solutions Castor Oil. Y’all. This is so great to have on hand. I use it to boost conditioners, I use it when I have dry scaly spots on my butt. Honestly that one is my one true love. I’ve used others, jojoba etc but my hair likes it heavy.
I bounce between two primarily.
My first love is the Oyin Juices n Berries. I am a ride or die og Oyin fan. They make my FAVE whipped butter. I love the light mist and the scent of juices and berries. This is great for me. It does have glycerin in it so I alternate it with another leave in.
Creme of Nature with argan oil – Strength & Shine Leave-In Conditioner. I LOVE this product. It is a bit more of a heavy spray but gives some excellent slip. Really great. I love this one.
Plain water is great. Occasionally I like to do water mixed with a sploot of oil.
The biggest thing I’ve learned this year about my hair is that I really need to just do me. I LOVE learning about the big wide diverse world of natural hair, I just gotta remember not to try EVERY DAMN SHINY THING ON MYSELF.
Also y’all, I had some setbacks didn’t make my goal length and I am so happy. I love my hair so much.
Coming up in 2018 I’m planning on going HARD on the protective styling. What can I say, I want mermaid hair.
There will be more wig reviews, maybe some struggle bus how to basics?
Happy new year y’all.