When Times are Tough…Fashion.

Hello from your most irregular Auntie folks.

Yes I KNOW I said more posts but, life does things.

So instead let’s talk fashion. I was talking to a Baby Bat I know and they were fairly astonished by my Gothable View of fashion. There are affiliate links in here. Marked with an * for everything not covered by Amazon or Shopstyle.

What is Gothable?

Gothable in my world are not specifically Goth things that I can and will put in my wardrobe. I think for a lot of folks, especially us Office Goths, we can’t always be decked out in Victorian Luxe a la my fave Auntie Jillian. Some of us would rather not. So let’s talk about things I find HIGHLY gothable. With two brand new pin boards.

I personally have a philosophy that if I can buy an item, I will because I like it. This also means I do frequently as I’ve mentioned shopped at places folks disapprove of for various reasons. My current booty is about chonky teen sized and a lot of jrs cut clothing fits me well so I’ve been buying some great pieces at Hot Topic. *GASP* THE HORROR.

I also bought pieces from times when Gothyish was in because here’s the thing. Most of us can’t afford to buy exclusively GOTH brands nor do all of us have the skill for DIY. I KNOW OMG THE LIFESTYLE RAWR OH GOD DIY OR DIE…ahem.

Sewing is a skill. I personally have made clothes and they looked okay but sucked. Most of the time, even if I’m recycling shit, I just don’t have the skills to make anything cool. And my efforts tend to a.) not look good and b.) wind up costing as much as retail in time, spoons and materials. So DIY if you can but storebought is goddamn fine.

For my first pinboard, I labeled it affordable Gothables. There’s stuff from Walmart, Etsy, Asos, Target etc.

The great thing about anything alt or dark flavored being trendy is that those styles become knocked off and accessible. Can’t afford Killstar* you can probably find things similar if you look that fit in your budget.

Below is my, if neither size nor budget were a consideration Goth Dream Lewks. Designer shit that wouldn’t fit me etc. I use these as aesthetic ideas mainly.

Another method of Gothables for me is accessories. GOSH. Y’all. Between Etsy, Ebay and Amazon and whatnot you can find some spooky accessories for every price point. Evil Empire links ahoy.

 These cuties are under ten bucks a pop and I personally love them. Love skulls? Can’t afford real bones? Items like this are great. Unlike when I was a babybat, it was ding dang hard to find cheap spooky jewelry that was shiny AND as these are nickel free.

Wanna DIY it? Grab some plain chokers like these and voila, slide a lil skull on it and voila. Fashion.

Would you rather buy handmade? Some of my fave shops.

UglyShyla. (Do NOT CLICK if you are scared of dolls) I really love Shyla’s pieces. I probably have four or so. She goes far to make things that are both lower and higher end prices. Nice quality.

Vandyland makes some cute necklaces. I want to say I have 2? Horror icons, movie references. These are not expensive and light to wear.

Osteal. Like bones and witchy looking pretty things made of metal? Check out this shop. I have a piece from Osteal that was gifted to me and is really nice. Very reasonable pricing.

Sumayyah Said So.  This shop is run by a dear friend of mine. I have, gosh five pieces from them? Anyway, they make beautiful jewelry including earrings, wrapped stones and necklaces. US shipping only.

Shakur Arts Studio. Looking for something really unique? Another shop run by a dear friend. They have some really beautiful and creative fiber/yarn art pieces. Yarn and beads they also make some really lovely collage art.

Wolftea. I don’t know how I found Wolftea but I have a couple of their antler pieces and I just love them. If you are going for a forest witch or Dark Mori inspo, this shop has it.

My secret to finding accessories is that I limit my search terms. For instance, search bone jewelry on etsy and find a HUGE choice of items that range from 5-10$ on up through the 100s.

This is also where I encourage you to get your thrift on. Whether online or in the shops. If you have holy grail items, set yourself some alerts in ebay or Poshmark. When I set my search alerts I usually will do the name of a style and my size. Or if it is harder to find, just the name of the style.

Here’s the thing about aesthetics. Some folks just like a Dark or Gothy Aesthetic. That’s fine. Some folks are ALL in with the culture. Also fine. Dark aesthetics being trendy isn’t the end of the world. One brand *cough Killstar* isn’t newly making being Goth expensive. This has been a thing forever, not because of trends but because capitalism. Be mad at the right thing.

And lastly, y’alls. Have some fuckin fun. Aesthetics doesn’t have to be srs business even if it is Goth Aesthetics. Enjoy yourself. Wear a crop top. Get your booty shorts on. Wear winklepickers with broomstick skirts and band tees. Do you Boo.

Stuff I’m Lowkey obsessed with.

Y’all, I HAVE to share because I cannot make myself stop.

I’m going to throw links at y’all of stuff I’m pretty obsessed with as in, if money weren’t no thang….you know.

First thing. I am obsessed with Chrome bags. I have one, my partner has one. I LOVE them. They are made for bike messengers and if you don’t drive, have to be out in weather and pack a lot of crap y’all. I already have a Citizen. It is a big ass bag. Lots of capacity and I retired from carrying it daily only because it is big and my morning buses tend to be butts to nuts standing room only. And I have manners. I do want to be able to carry my crochet projects and as I was looking at tote bags, they came out with the Welterweight mini Metro*.  Y’AAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL….I want it so bad. I do not have 140$ bag money right now, but I want it. Y’all know Auntie hates paying retail, but totally worth it.

What else?

As we get towards the idea of better weather, I want sandals? I dunno. I do want wedges and platforms. I’m feeling like full 90s clunky kinda ugly platform.

I was giggling at myself the other day, on nice days I tend to dress the way I wanted to dress when I was like 19 and it just makes me laugh. Apparently I really just want to clomp around in warm weather with my furry legs out and with my hair in braids giving no fucks.

I’m really bad at hair y’all. I lack the Black Folx braiding magic and really REALLY want to give myself Goddess Locs. I have been watching Jazz Nicole’s videos constantly and I bought a latch hook. I think I’m ready to practice doing myself some.

If you are not good at these things like me, go check out her feed.

How about some shit I’m annoyed at?

I am so done with make up brands URBAN DECAY HI, using Black folks but not making their “tributes” accessible. Look here:

Once upon a time I loved UD. That said, they ain’t shit for this. I mean, POC have the cash to spend and so many of these brands just don’t bother to really try. Yes, like Nyx they’ll come out with the colors, but I can’t go to ULTA and buy them. Sephora? Yep Black Beauty folks on youtube will squee about that new Laura Mercier darker powder, but, we can’t go to the store to buy it.

Now y’all see why I’ll never be a famous beauty blogger.

When it comes to make up, y’all. I LOVE it. But, I also hate it. I hate that for instance I think Kat Von D makes gorgeous make up. I don’t like that just like every other damn brand, you’d be hard pressed to find someone darker than beige even in spots where it’d make sense. SUCH AS, foundation area. Why not have any more models? You ColourPop I remember this shit.

I mean everybody loves some melanin, unless it’s time to use a dark model right?

Pardon my mood swing. I am still really sick and I’m cranky as fuck.

Also, I resent that in trying to, you know get my fucking glam on, I have to navigate this bullshit.

This is also on my mind because I was given an unwanted lecture about voting with my wallet and ethical shopping. For me, if I shopped to match my actual ethics I’d not be able to buy anything down to my draws and I’m just not about that life.

If you can and want to vote with your wallet? Do you Boo.

Okay good lord.

That is not quite where I was tryin to go but here we are.

Okay, back to stuff I keep thinking about.

Goddess Locs be damned, the sun is coming out and I really -really- want to have red hair again. I’m talking I want to strip the fuck out of my hair with a product like this and have it be bright red. Ahem. This is why I wear wigs and protective style. Once upon a time, I would bleach the hot fuck out of my hair anytime and my hair suffered.

I might be fantasizing about my big red fro, I’m going to keep doing what I’m doing because my hair is doing quite well and I decided I’m gonna try to grow it to waist length.

I’ll have a hair update after this weekend. I had a major whoopsy and I’m gonna document me fixing it.

I didn’t fuck up super bad, but my scalp is mad and I did it to my damn self.

OH also soon I’m going to have a write up of using a homemade toner, some quickie reviews and maybe some dedicated posts to books and whatnots.

Thanks for visiting y’all!

OH before I forget.

As usual any links marked * you can get money back from ebates. Also on that side hustle tip, I added a whole new section of sparkly, holo, silly handbags and wallets on my Amazon shop because I love them and can’t have them all. Check it here.I’ll write about my bag fetish at another time.

 

 

 

 

Stuff I like for Fall

There will be affiliate links, y’all know what it is.

So I have a little stack of stuff that I’m super into right now and I want to share.

First up let’s talk beauty stuff.

I’ve been tinkering with my skincare routine and added some new stuff in the last few months.

The first thing I’m in terrible love with is the The Face Shop – Rice Water Bright – Cleansing Light Oil. I’ve been using it religiously since June. I use it to remove my make up before I cleanse. I’ve tried regular oil cleansing to remove make up before. I tried Olive oil, jojoba, sweet almond, castor oil etc. Overall using a plain oils kind of underwhelmed me. In terms of the actual effects on my skin, it was blah. But, I am into Korean beauty like a bunch of other folks and on a whim I picked this product up. Y’all………..this shit right here.

First week, here’s what I noticed:

  1. It took off ALL my make up. All of it. Even my super waterproof mascaras, forty pounds of liner, a lot of matte long wear foundation. Melted off.
  2. It does not sting my eyes if it gets in them, which it does cause I’m messy.

After a couple of months:

  1. My face is intensely soft. Like aggressively silky. I didn’t change out other products (remember I only switch one thing at a time) and wow. I can FEEL the difference.
  2. My eyelashes are in much better condition. I noticed that because of the vigor it took to remove my waterproof mascaras my lashes were starting to feel brittle and dry.

All in all, I’m very into this product. I haven’t noticed extreme brightening but, my skin tone overall started to improve and I’m for it. Love it. Also it’s super economical, I still have a good quarter inch in my bottle to go.

All summer and now into fall my ride or die foundation has been the L’Oreal Paris Cosmetics Infallible Pro-Matte Foundation Makeup, Soft Sable. For the hotter months I was wearing it sheered down the tiniest bit. The Soft sable can run a teensy bit too light but I warmed it up with a slightly dark powder. For building up the coverage I use this brush.  If I want to beat my face and go for a heavier coverag I use this brush.I’ve used a few other foundations in the past few months and nothing drugstore has given me the finish, the coverage AND the color I need.

I am not sure if I’ve mentioned this but I am a lip product fanatic. I love ALL things lips. Quite a while back I picked up a couple of tubes of Mentha shine from Bath and Body Works. Y’all. I LOVE that shit. Super shiny, tasty, tingly wonderful goodness. This is my Fall/Winter go to stuff to wear at work or whatever. My favorite is a tossup between the Cinnamint and the Peppermint.  They are a little expensive for me so when I do buy them, I snag them on sale.

Season changes really put me through the wringer so I have been switching out some of my other skin/body care stuff while I adapt to the changing weather.

My huge indulgence is this Korres Japanese Rose Body butter. I picked up a sample set on discount a long while back and I just love this so much. It’s not the richest, most awesome butter, but, it smells so damn good.

On my OH SHIT MY SKIN IS GOING ALL THE WAY LEFT list is my fave Exfoliating hydro towel. I recommend only using it once or twice a week because it will scrub your butt hard. I use mine with a creamy anti itch body wash and always follow up with some heavy duty moisturizer.

If y’all recall from my itchy baby post, remember even though a product might look good, check those ingredients. I was all hype to buy the Cerave moisturizing cream UNTIL I saw it has both silicones and petrolatum.

For me my current go to butter has just not been enough. As delicious and creamy as it is, no dice. I LOVE my Chocolate Macadamia nut cocoa butter stuff from Q2 naturals on etsy but,  I need more. My body skin is so dry and cranky. Also I’m such a sucker for having an array of super moisturizing things that also smell good I’ll probably indulge myself in a few extra butters.

Next faves post I’ll do a Struggle Bus Naturals post with some updates on products and stuff.

In the meantime, happy Fall for my Fall folks and happy Spring to the rest of y’all.