Goth it up on A Budget

Hello my darlings!

Your fave Fine Ass Old Auntie returns. We’re going to be talking about clothing and accessories that are budget friendly AND easily Gothable.

First a definition of terms.

Gothable- an item that can go Goth with attitude, accessories or styling or cause you say so.

Below there will be a pin board full of straight and plus size ideas. I’ll toss in some more masc stuff as well. I will say I am no expert in masc leaning clothing because frankly I am Femme as Fuck.

Some personal style history. In the past 20 years or so, I’ve gone from OMG SO GOTH MY ASS IS SHINY IN DAYLIGHT as in wearing a lot of club clothing, vinyl during the day type goth. I’ve done ruffly lace fancy Goth. I’ve done punky goth, some kinderwhore. A LOT O GOTH. I think I’ve not done a lot of Victorian Goth or EGL or a bunch of other styles because $$ for fashion haven’t been plentiful.

In the last decade or so I tend towards the slightly absurd office goth. I like comfy. I like a stretchy waistband. I wear a lot of skirts, I love dresses. I’m very partial as I’ve mentioned to the skater skirt. I’m not very particular about where I shop. Let’s talk about that for a sec.

Some of my links will be fast fashion. I personally am not in a position to vote with my cash most of the time. I just can’t afford it. I like the idea of saving for an amazing ethical piece but in reality, for me and a lot of folks that is impractical.

Prior to my weight changing, I really didn’t think about it because most of the indie dark witchy brands just (and still) don’t go above a size 10 or 12 if you’re lucky. Even now that I’m a chonky 10/12 a LOT of the designers I love are not checking for my lil ass.

For instance I am OBSESSED with Sisters of the Black Moon and I have literally dreamed of this dress. The FLUIR DRESS BLACK LINEN. It costs $305.00. Now, yes craftmanship and everything. I’m not mad about the price. That said, if I had that type of cash to spend on a single garment, nah. I could probs fit into Large
Bust: 31 1/2″
Waist: 35″
Length: 54 1/4″

But the way I’m built, no way because um, my bust is not smaller than my waist. I run into the same problem with the beautiful things from Noctex. This item I could save up for BUT, my titties. I have them. Big ones. This is not built for someone who is not the shape of the model if that is the look you’re going for.

Often in Goth circles, folks will get up in arms over Goth being trendy. Remember that H&M Girl with the Dragon Tattoo collection? I saw a lot of hand wringing and ZOMFG MALL GOTH WE ARE SPECIAL type lamentation and y’all, wrong attitude. Yes, DIY is great. However, it is not just a matter of being able to slap shit together. Not all of us can design. Not all of us can sew. No, not everyone can sew together clothing. That is bullshit. AND often, the materials to make one shitty franken thing cost as much as just buying the damn thing.

If you can make something awesome. if not, shit store bought is fucking fine.

One of the other reasons why I love Goth as a trend is that the styles circulating in the indie and high end Gothdom, come down to earth and will fit my ass and the asses of my fat friends. If you’re mad at mall goths, you’re mad at folks who likely can’t afford to sit with you and, you might as well click away.

Ahem.

Also a lot of what you’ll find in the pinboard is office appropriate. Yes in theory we all want to wild out and wear what the fuck we want when we want but, puppies don’t appear out of nowhere when we want them either and bitches got rent to pay.

I’m not including shoes because that is a whole other thing.

Some tips.

If you cannot go full goth at work for reasons, little touches are great. Spooky jewelry from the cheesy Halloweeny stuff to beautiful handmade occult or bone jewelry. Make up is also an option. From a classic wing to a fierce AF black lip. The fun part is figuring out how much of your freak flag to fly.

My opinion, much like my style is pretty easy. Do what makes you feel fancy and if someone is doing none of the following:

  • Feeding you
  • Paying your rent
  • Fucking you
  • Paying you in general

Nobody gives a shit what they think about your aesthetic choices.

Let’s talk affordability. That is also highly subjective. Two years ago, I couldn’t afford an unplanned pair of 30$ shoes. These days with my improved credit lines, I can usually work it out to spend more. Do you.

Let’s get our mall goth on. I suggest HIGHLY following me on Pinterest. I am putting together a LOT of idea boards. I will mark stuff that is expensive to me in the fantasy boards. Full disclosure, some of the links I get a tenth of a penny if you click em.

 

 

The time Betsy Johnson Broke My Heart

A site I like to window shop at sometimes sent me an email about a bunch of Betsy Johnson stuff on sale.

Y’all don’t know this, but Betsy Johnson was the first designer I loved. When I was a lil post teenage potato, the only designer that I ever thought, holy fuck I want to wear that was Betsy.

Back in the 90s, my style was absolutely done what I gotta do with thrift store and hand me downs. Not because it was fashionable, but I was poor and chubby. And then in some magazine I saw Betsy Johnson clothes. It became my big secret dream to have one. Even more than the pretty formal dresses that never fit me, more than the Goth wear I saw in the Retail Slut catalogs I got.

A dress similar to this one was my dream.

My style icons were Grace Jones, Courtney Love, Stevie Nicks, the goth and punk girls I saw randomly. I wanted to wear pleated school girl skirts and boots, I wanted to wear big chunky ass shoes and slip dresses and y’all get it.

I had this vision of Bad Bitch Femme. Glitter and fucked up nails and whatnot.

However, I was not a thin girl. Even at my lowest weights, I’ve always still been a thick girl. Back then, after having a little money for mall clothes, I remember leaving in tears because I couldn’t find things I liked that fit my body. I remember very vividly being in a dressing room in the Limited maybe and trying not to cry and my Mom being impatient because I wouldn’t come out.

So I made it work sort of. I remember convincing myself that well fuck mall clothes anyway and that I just didn’t have the body to wear things I actually liked. And then I started to fake it.

I remember I had this ridiculous outfit, a pair of poop brown mens 70s slacks that I paired with a cream colored long sleeve thermal, boots and a big old fake high long ponytail. I paired it with a super glossy glittery lip and a big ole stripe of liner and it was one of the first times I was like, I am fine as fuck.

My next foray into dressing just how I wanted to was when I went to my first Pride. I want to say it was maybe 1999? I dunno, I’m an old.

So I had thrifted what was probably part of a dance team outfit. It was a fuschia sequinned a line mini skirt with a little keyhole belly cut out and a black ribbon. I saw it buried in a bin at Value Village and fell in immediate love.

I wore it low on my hips with platform sandals and a strappy vintage camisole that was almost see thru. There was glitter on my face (I used to mix my own glittery face powder back in the day, SHUT UP IT WAS THE SHIT) and I had a pixie haircut and y’all, I went alone and it was when I found my bounce.

I did that thing where when I got to the parade, I invoked my runway hoeness and walked it the fuck out. Booty bouncing, titties out, shoulders back, feelin the FUCK out of myself. There was a drag queen handing out sunglasses and she stopped me, put some glitter cat eyes on my face and made me do my runway walk.

I wound up being friends with her but mostly what i remember is this drag queen and some cute gay boys yelling, “WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORK BITCH” and it was the first time in my young adult potato life, I really felt beautiful.

Now around that time I was saving money, all my change, any extra dollars because I wanted to go into the Betsy Johnson store and buy a dress. I got myself gussied up and went in and almost immediately realized that nothing would fit me aside from maybe some earrings or sunglasses or a purse.

I didn’t want a fucking purse.

I remember leaving (AH I was 21 by then) and going to sit in a bar by myself and feel like the grossest human to ever live.

Betsy Johnson just broke my lil heart. I was devastated. I’d worked so hard to save up about 300$ and I even had a plan to take myself out on a fancy date so I could wear whatever I bought.

Now I took that money and wound up in a Hot Topic, ostensibly to buy myself some band shirts or something and I discovered this long black beautiful Gothy dress. It was full length, had a chiffon cape thingy, the big sheer bell sleeves. Sort of this style, but not velvet. The ubiquitous Goth thing.

I found my thing.

I found the thing that opened up fashion to me in a while new way. I realized that my body was not at fault for some stuff not fitting me. That my inability to wear Betsy or shop at 5-7-9 or whatever.

My big point here is this.

Your body is not wrong.

You have to figure out what you’re working with and work with it. Figure it out. The thing is, there’s something like THE big deal thing, you just have to find it.

That said, sometimes you’re still gonna mourn the perfect thing. It’s okay. It happens to all of us.

This post brought to you by this most perfect dress that would in no universe fit my ass.

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Someone please buy that damn dress and then get your photo taken and show me because I think it is so damn beautiful. Betsy, you hurt my feelings again.

 

Fat Fashion Mega Post

Okay my Fat Babes.

This post is going to be a lot of links, some discussion of size and some tips on shopping at some places. Ready?

First a few things to mention:

  1. Shops marked with an asterisk (*) will indicate where if you shop online you can get Ebates. This is my Ebates referral link, Ebates is basically getting a percentage of how much you spend on supporting stores online. I love it.
  2. I will do my level best to let y’all know about size ranges. Also mark what is women’s sizing v’s jrs sizing and stuff marked as man sizes. That said, this is not gender essential. Wear what you like on your butt.
  3. Pricing. I won’t be commenting on that overmuch because quite frankly any garment over 50$ is out of my price range. That said, do check stores out and do this. See a garment you want, it is out of your price range. You can wait to see if it goes on sale, you can look for coupons, you can google search the garment to see if there’s something close or that garment for less. Or use it as a point of reference and find something similar.
  4. I am not going to lecture about ethical shopping. I am not the drones you are looking for for that.
  5. Some of these places aren’t strictly plus size but have plus sizes available.
  6. For some places I picked the sizing based on the jeans section. Always check individual items in case they have different sizing.
  7. Some folks are gonna be like, pfft you’re not even fat anymore. No I’m not. I am interested in providing resources for my fat homes cause everybody needs to cover their asses.

Okay got it?

Let us get started fatties.

First big box stores.

Torrid.* They carry sizes 10-30 or in their range 00-6. They also carry wide calf boots, and wide shoes. Also hosiery, lingerie and accessories.

Fashion To Figure*. They carry sizes 02(straight size) to 22/24. They do carry a lot of knit wear so that 22/24 might be able to extend a bit further size wise. They also carry shoes, accessories, intimates.

Avenue*.  They carry sizes 14-32. They carry wide calf and extra wide shoes, intimates, activewear, outerwear etc.

Lane Bryant*.  They carry sizes 14-32. That said, make sure you check individual items for their sizing. They also carry lingerie, wide calf shoes, designer collections.

Deb Shops. They carry sizes 14-24. They are absolutely more jrs oriented. Trendy wear. Straight sizes available as well.

Ashley Stewart*. They carry sizes 12-32. However, sizes 26-32 are in their own “special sizing” area. They carry wide calf and extra wide shoes, intimates, activewear, outerwear etc.

Woman Within. They carry sizes 12W to 48W. They really carry everything. Pro tip-Often you can buy woman within items via amazon. Note the name of the item from the catalog or website and search Amazon.

King Size Big and Tall. Menswear waist sizes from 38  to 78/80. Medium, wide and extra wide shoes. Pants, shirts, jackets, intimates, socks.

Ulla Popkin. Sizes 12-38. They also carry jrs and menswear.

Eshakti. Sizes 0-38 and also custom sizing. Skirts, dresses, tunics, pants and wedding wear.

Simply Be*. They carry sizes 6-34. Lots of on trend. They do sell shoes in sizes 9+ as well as wide and extra wide widths.

Roamans. They carry sizes 12W to 48W. Lots of career type wear. Business casual to business. They also carry winter wear, wide calf boots, wide shoes.

Hips and Curves– check site for various sizing. Lingerie, costumes, corsets.

Holy Clothing. Sizes 2/4-30/32 flowy dresses, skirts, tunics.

Jessica London. Sizes 12-38/40 focused on professional clothing.

City Chic. Sizes 14-24 On trend, very femme.

Beth Ditto. Sizes 14-28 (1x-3x) Boutique designer pieces.

Chubby Cartwheels. Sizes 14-32. Tees, tanks, skirts, dresses. Boutique, unique prints.

Ready to Stare– Sizes 2/4-30/32 (also see individual item listing) lots of unique skirts, tees, dresses, accessories.

Witch WorldWide– Sizes s/5XL. A lot of their items are meant to be worn oversized, check individual listings. Witchy, nu-goth.

Lovesick– Sizes 10-26 trendy, lots of cute on trend jeans/tops.

Rainbow*-Sizes 1x-3x lots of stretch items, low prices.

Beige– Sizes UK 16-28. Higher end out of the UK. Focus on designer collections.

Yours Clothing– Sizes UK 16-36, wide variety. Dresses, pants, coats etc.

Sealed With a Kiss (SWAK designs)-Sizes 1x to 6x- check individual items for more precise sizing. Trendy.

Plus Size Fix– Sizes XL-3X. Club wear, dresses. Boutique items.

Re/DressNYC-Sizes 1x-5X home of the legendary plus size teggings.

Copper Union– Sizes 12/4-28/30 Unique boutique items.

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Next up these are direct links to the plus size sections of other stores with their sizes available.

ModCloth-1x-4x/16-26. Unique dresses, tops sweaters.

Nordstrom Plus size. – Sizes 14-28 higher end, designer wear.

Sears*– Sizes 12-30 (some up to 7/8X) some items may not be available for shipping.

Bealls Florida-Sizes 14/16 – 22/24W. Career and trendy clothes.

H&M– Sizes 14-24 Trendy clothes. Basics.

Land’s End– Sizes 16-26W. Jeans, outdoor wear, cold weather gear.

Wet Seal-Sizes 14-22 (looks like Jrs) trendy items, skinny jeans, leggings.

Old Navy*– Sizes 16-30(women)  Pro tip- If you are smaller busted/hipped always check the straight sizes as well up through about a size 22 or so.

Old Navy*– Mens “big” sizes up to 48″ waist 36″ inseam/sizes 2XL-3XL

Charlotte Russe Plus*– Sizes 16/17-26/27 Jrs. Trendy jrs oriented.

Rue21– Sizes 14-24 Jrs Trendy, lower cost.

Belk*-Sizes 14-24W Lots of selection from basics to more fancy things.

Zappos– Sizes 14-26 apparel. Shoes Womens up to size 20 (I checked, there are two styles). Mens shoes up to 20.

Target*– Sizes 14-30. Intimates, basics, skirts, pants dresses.

Walmart*– Sizes 16W-28/30. While shopping keep your eye on whether or not something is shippable.

Forever21*– Sizes 12-20. Jrs very trend oriented.

Zulily– varies. this is a membership shopping site, They have some great sales. Also if you’d like to sign up, please hit me up for an invite.

Rosegal- Sizes Xl-9Xl. Club wear, lingerie, fun holiday prints. They actually had stuff in at 9Xl.

Atomic Cherry- Sizes 8-26/28 (AU sizes) Vintage style, rockabilly boutique.

Sweet Chop Plus– Sizes XS-4XL (varies) Pin up, rockabilly, costumes.

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Etsy Subsection. Note Ebates can be used all over Etsy. These will lean heavily alt because they are out of my personal favorites/related that Etsy popped up for me. As a rule, if you really want a garment on Etsy don’t be afraid to message the maker about getting one in your size or asking why they don’t carry your size.

Technodolly– Custom sizes fairytale clothes.

Exo Umbra-S-5Xl handmade modern witch clothes.

gloomth and the cult of melancholy- S-1xl, however they do offer custom sizing upon request. Creepy dolly clothes.

Corvus Corone Fashion– Sizes UK8-22 they also offer custom sizing. Grown up goth clothing.

Aakasha– Sizes XS-4XL (msg for above 4XL) Unique designs from a Bulgarian designer.

Spoons and Lace– Waists 32″-58″ (PLS note this store does use G*psy in some descriptions, this is not my store nor is it encouraging use of that slur) boho/hippie/bellydance skirts.

Go Follow Rabbits– All made to order. Nerdy circle skirts.

A few Amazon retailers-

The Legendary CowCow skater dresses. A million fun prints, really great prices and the sizing is very very generous. Sizes XS-4X. I’ve seen babes from sizes 0 up through 30 rocking these. Seriously they are great I have three of them.

Pro tip- If you spot something at Woman Within, check for the same item at Amazon. You might save some money. I purchased a Woman Within coat and on the WW site it was 98$ and  I got it on amazon for 55.

I have a clothing section in my Amazon affiliate store. Pay CLOSE attention to sizing/reviews for these.

Some fat folks shopping tips:

Don’ts:

  1. Don’t be afraid to wear something other than the fit intended. Wear something tight that is supposed to be loose. Whatever, it’s your butt you do what you want.
  2. Don’t let numbers on tags freak you out.In no universe we have access to are sizing even approaching universal so fuck em. Use a number size as a reference only not as a rule.
  3. Don’t be ruled by whether something is Jrs, W, or marked plus. See #1. Be a cat, if it fits you..not sits but whatever. It’s your butt you do what you want.
  4. Don’t believe the hype- DIY is not always the answer. Sometimes yes but often DIY is as expensive or more expensive than just finding and buying.
  5. Don’t skip out on a trend or style because “you can’t pull it off” that is a bullshit lie someone else told you. Wear what the fuck you want.
  6. Don’t shame/be shamed if you’re shoppin at the Walmart or F21 or other “bad” retailer. Not all of us have Lane Bryant money.
  7. Don’t buy the hype about your shape (apple, pear, triangle, mother ship, whatever) see #1- IT IS YOUR BUTT YOU DO WHAT YOU FUCKING WANT.

DOS

  1. Wear whatever the fuck you want regardless of the size of your ass.
  2. Take/know your measurements. Don’t be afraid. Also for extra fit prowess, take your low waist, low hip or mark where you like to wear your undies/pants on your belly and measure there.
  3. Buy clothes for the body you have.
  4. Fuck flattering. Flattering is another bullshit concept. Yes, your ass still looks fat, it’s fine. No it’s awesome.
  5. Shop around. Don’t settle for shit you don’t like.
  6. Have fun with your clothes.

Other tips.

If you are like me and can’t totally afford your personal aesthetic, buy basics that are close to your aesthetic and dress em up with accessories.

NEVER apologize for your size. Especially if you are trying to give somebody money.

Share resources with other fat folks. I mean y’all, we gotta be in there togther. Speaking of solidarity, if you see a plus size line ends at size 22 and we know that we have homies who are above a size 30-say something. You can say, my friend would love this but they are a size 28/30. You might wanna consider providing for those folks.

Don’t be fooled by Instagram fatshionistas. Not all fat bodies are hourglass shaped and that’s ok. Also clothes look different on different body shapes and that’s great.

Now I turn it over to the best folks in the world, y’all.

Know places I haven’t linked? Drop em here.

Do you make stuff? BOOM PUT IT HERE!

Have any other super secret fatty fashion, shopping tip, BRING IT!

 

 

Fall Aesthetics- Gender Fluid Goth Feelings

It is officially Fall in my brain. The weather is cooling down and is grey and drizzly.

That means, Fall Aesthetics are happening.

Per usual since I am protective styling my hair, I changed it. I’m rocking some evil mermaid locks right now and I’m super into it. I’ll have a whole post about it soon.

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[image description: photo of the author. Brown skinned person with black and burgundy long wavy hair]

So that’s the hair aesthetic right now. A little Evil Femme Mermaid.

NOW the clothes.

Fall and cooler weather means I have to wear more pants and weather resistant stuff. Can we talk about what I’m craving?

My ultimate Fall looks are lots of vampy make up (messy smokey eye, big dark lips) very Goth Femme and I like cardigans and if I’m wearing pants I prefer skinny cut jeans (but not denim if I can help it), straight cut twill pants and of course leggings.

How about some links? Some are affiliate some not:

For some masc/butch footwear can we talk about black on black Timberlands? They are pricy but I believe they are worth it. When I was in my early 20s I had some classic ones that lasted for probably six years with a lot of heavy wear. Pro tip if you have smaller feet like me, try looking at Kids Footlocker for big kid sizes. You save some cash and have a few extra finish types to choose from. The other great thing about this style of boot is that if you get the adult sizes usually the mens sizes, they are steel cap which is great.

Also, if you can’t afford Timbs, check places like Payless or Kmart for similar styles. Usually you can find them in the work boot area.

Next tip about pants.

For reference about my body. In pants I am usually a 13-15 in Jrs. In grown lady pants depending on the cut and brand I’m anywhere from a 10-14. I have big ass hams and not a lot of booty. I also loathe pants. I wear them because I don’t like my ass or cooch being cold but I hate pants. Mainly because a lot of pants tend to not fit my hips/low waist at the same time. Or my high natural waist and my hips at the same time.

My advice about pants, especially for gender fluid folks.

Find a style of ass covering that makes you feel good about your booty. Doesn’t matter if they are dude pants, lady pants, leggings, jeggings, whatever.

Now for me, let me show y’all some of what is on my wishlist.

First up I am actually wearing these right now:

These are (that is an amazon affiliate link) Jr sizing low rise straight leg twill pants.

Pros: these fit my big hams small booty self very well. The rise is a bit low but not unbearable. They are inexpensive and last pretty well. Comfy (the material softens up very nicely) and I like them. They are very easily modded. They are very plain so you can add patches or trim or whatever floats your boat.

Cons: They do stretch kind of weird. You will eventually need a belt especially if you sit a lot.They are not the quality that the dude Dickie’s usually are. The material is thinner and they will not look as good for long.

They also do come in plus sizes.

Tips for buying: I have not found them in stores so if you’re unsure, order two sizes and return what doesn’t fit. Also if you have more booty in the pants regardless of size this cut probably won’t do you any good.

I’ve got half a mind to give this style a shot as well. I like that slightly wide leg fit. That sort of cut always makes me feel a little more boy. 

 

When I’m feeling a bit less masc but I don’t feel like wearing a dress I’m super into printed leggings this year.

Behold my new favorite leggings.

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[image description: a photo of crossed legs. The leggings have small light colored print]

Those are my Bloodmilk Knock off Hamlet leggings.

Okay, yes I know I bought knock offs. I’m awful and whatnot.

Real talk though. I cannot spend on a good day (they are in Australia so the prices are in AUD) like 60$ on leggings that will probably not fit me because Bloodmilk notoriously does not serve fatties.So yeah nope. Fuck those people.

My secret for the four pairs of printed leggings I’ve picked up has been ebay. Search for your print and make sure you read any feedback and reviews. Keywords you want to pay attention to in the sizing details. American vs Asian sizing. Asian sizing is going to almost always run quite a bit smaller.

Some leggings hacks, especially printed leggings.

If they are a bit too see through in the butt or crotch wear tunic length tops. If they are just a bit too small or they don’t go all the way up to your crotch, get some tight fitting undies like mens briefs and wear em super hero style with a long top.

If the waistband elastic is too tight, break that shit. Basically stretch it until you hear or feel it pop then stretch it a bit more.

If you are more crafty, you can replace too small elastic with something else stretchy to give yourself more space in the waist without sacrificing your print.

Now let’s talk about some other subtle ways to get your gender feels on without having to buy more stuff.

For me personally when I’m feeling a bit more Masc Femme, I tend to wear different jewelry. Still pretty femme but it feels good to me to wear my chunkier jewelry when I feel more masc and my  more delicate jewelry when I feel more Feminine Femme.

I’m still exploring more ways of expressing my gender and talking about it in a way that fits the type of fluidity I feel.

What else are my Fall aesthetics? Some beauty stuff okay?

VAMPY LIPS Y’ALL.

I’ve been wearing the HELL out of this J.Cat Beauty Lip paint stuff in Queen of Hearts. It is a tad bit messy and if you have any dry skin around your mouth this will be an issue. It is really full coverage and I find that playing with blotting can totally change how the product looks on your lips. Super worth it

I’m also super into Nyx lippies. Y’all they have a TON of finishes, colors, opacities etc to choose from and they are fairly inexpensive so you can get to experiment without busting the bank. Currently I’m super obsessed with the Butter Glosses. I think at last count I have six of them and I LOVE them. Pro tip: they are frequently on sale at drug stores and Ulta for great deals like I picked up some that were buy two Nyx products get one free.

I’m still on the hunt for a new coat to wear between now and actual cold weather. I am super picky and have a terrible wool allergy so that struggle is super real.

Next time, I’ll probably blog some about more gender feels, some new skin care stuff I’m playing with and my urge to Vlog.

Later taters.

Summer Obsessions- Clothes

I LOVE summer clothing. When it comes time to shed layers and get my furry hams out into the sun I’m about that life.

So can we talk about what a broke ass old chubby Goth is to do?

We’ll do straight size stuff then some plus size stuff.

Target is often on my shitlist but, BUT I do love their little dresses. Like this one. I’m pretty sure my titty would fall out because such is my luck, but I love this little dress. Being that it looks like it is supposed to be loose, I’d probably get it in an XL.

And then I saw this one. And I am a complete sucker for an uneven pixie hem. I feel like it might not be stretchy so I’d grab it in an XXL.

AND this gauze maxi is just, yes it calls my name.

As you can see I’m really about that flowy comfortable life. Also pro tip if you are a person who’s body or measurements fluctuates, these type shapes for femme clothes can be very forgiving in that regard.

I’m looking and I kinda hate Target’s plus size offerings. I don’t see (as per USUAL retailers) a lot of the same level of choice in terms of plain cute cheaper dresses. Let me step onto my soap box AGAIN.

So hi, retailers? If you would kindly stop with the limited plus size options and realize how much damn money you’d make if the choices of the lower end, basic type pieces that come in a couple of colors (including stuff like leggings, tanks, the type of dresses linked above) you would make the monies.

Thing is, the idea of offering a stretchy item like a tshirt material dress in sizes XS-say 5/6XL would increase your customer base. The offering of well priced items just works. I’m not talking every line instantly, but come on now. Fat people want choices that are easily accessible and varied just like thin folks do.

I am going to stop with the links here because I’m mad as shit.

I want to talk to folks who aren’t fat right now.

This is the type of shit that often drives fat folks to wailing and gnashing of teeth. Something as simple as say a stretchy cute knit dress. Nothing fancy, nothing super constructed. The kind of thing someone my size can roll into Target and walk about satisfied should be available.

Normally I often find a walk a mile in my shoes things to be shitty, but I really want folks who’ve never thought about it to do a thing next time they are at say target.

Head into the intimates area and find some cute panties that are for someone who is a size 24. Try to find a bra to match over a DD.

Go into the area where there are those plain stretchy tank tops. Look for something over a size XL/XXL.

If you aren’t a person who needs these sizes, try asking about them. Talk to people.

Okay, so here’s what I’m gonna do. I’m going to do a separate plus size list because I want to also give some other tips for poor fat folks including deathfat folks.

But I encourage some of y’all regardless of your size to do some searching on your own and figure out how hard this shit can be if you like clothes, have an aesthetic and are outside of the market sizing.

That said, for my go to basics I think Walmart has some of the best size selection going and of course the low prices. Also from what I hear Kmart has some good stuff as well.

I will report back and share with y’all some of my fat shopper tips for some slightly more expensive shops.

That’s it for now friends.